Friday, 2 November 2012

HOW TO BREAK LOOSE FROM THE BONDAGE OF MASTURBATION


In the course of my communicating through various media with youths, one of the challenges that keeps recurring is the issue of relationships and sexuality.
Amongst issues of sexuality is the problem of masturbation. I have decided to focus on the subject matter today, to throw light on this issue, which is a dangerous habit that could lead to addiction and ultimately self-humiliation.

The word masturbation, according to the Chambers English Dictionary, is “stimulation, usually by oneself, of the sexual organs by manipulation,etc, so as to produce orgasm”.
Many young persons are involved in this act, which I categorically consider to be a lewd habit.
A lewd habit is a bad, lustful and unchaste habit. It is a habit that should not be indulged in because it is dirty and capable of putting one in bondage.
Several factors are responsible for the indulgence of youths, especially male folks, in this act of masturbation.
The chief reason is lust, and the desire to gratify inherent sexual cravings.
For some, it is a way of letting out pent-up tension of the libido. For others, it is something they find themselves doing to the extent that they just cannot help indulging in it. In fact, they are in bondage of masturbation!
Whilst it might be true that those who indulge in masturbation derive some temporary pleasure from the act, many times, they end up becoming frustrated, empty and helpless.
This is because God, who created the human sexual organs, never intended for people to masturbate. That was why He created one man and one woman, as husband and wife!
Folks, sensual gratification, pleasure and sexual intimacy is ordained by God, exclusively for man and wife, within the legitimate confines of marriage. Anything outside of that is an anomaly, an aberration, capable of wrecking your spirit, soul and body, and ultimately separating you spiritually from a Hold God who created us to conform to His good image.
My simple and candid advice for anyone indulging in masturbation is, stop it! Stop tormenting youself.Stop putting yourself through psychological and emotional trauma.
If you are young and single, take your mind off sex and pre-occupy yourself with other worthwhile pursuits.
There is more to life than sex! If you are old enough to get married, please get married without further delay.
It is better to marry than to burn with passion.                                                               
Whilst you are still single, however, you must be disciplined and have self control. The married of course should stay faithful to their spouse.
The difference between man and the lower animals is that they are beasts without self control, character, or morals. They are irrational and lack personal will. But you are different!
You are a human being with value, a priceless creation of God with dignity. Don’t resign yourself to lewdness. You can overcome masturbation, only if you are determined to do so, and willing to give up certain attitudes and behavior that could make you vulnerable.
                                                    HOW TO OVERCOME MASTURBATION
Start with a mindset revolution. You can overcome masturbation by exercising your mental power and psychologically tuning off from thoughts of masturbation. Every human activity starts with a thoughts.
Learn to block off every sensual thought and switch over to more ennobling creative thoughts or activities.
Keep your mind pure. Engage yourself in positive activities.Remember, an idle mind is the devil’s workshop.
                                                 STOP EXPOSING YOURSELF TO X-RATED MATERIALS
If you are serious about overcoming the habit of masturbation, you must stop exposing yourself to pornographic materials such as X-rated movies, porn websites, vulgar or sensual music, porn photographs, magazines, books, stores, materials etc., that are obscene.
Burn any such material in your possession and start on a clean slate. You should read the Bible, educational and good motivational books for inspiration.
                                                    FIND ALTERNATIVE FUN-FILLED ACTIVITY
There are numerous activities that can engage in for leisure, entertainment, fun and enjoyment, that aren’t sensual. They will make you laugh, empathize, think, wonder and be grateful for daily blessings.
Listen to the news, read newspapers, magazines, novels, and articles. Watch a decent movie, drive through a slum and observe the suffering of others, listen to people’s problems, volunteer your time and resources for a good cause, counsel someone, engage in sporting activities, watch a football match, just do something that isn’t morally dirty.
                                                   STOP HANGING AROUND VULGAR FOLKS.
Evil communication corrupts good manners. If your friends are morally lax, inordinate, vulgar in speech, mannerism and character, you will find it extremely difficult to overcome the dirty habit.
Do yourself some good: change your circle of friends!
Keep company with godly, progressive, focused, creative and positive folks.
                                          BE DETERMINED TO OVERCOME IT
It is amazing how human beings have the ability to overcome any bad habit they make up their minds to overcome. It has to do with your personal will, your determination, commitment and effort.
Don’t cow under the excuse that you are helpless, because you aren’t.
                                         PRAY AND SEEK GODLY COUNSEL
Prayer works wonders. You can ask God Almighty to purge your mind, and give you the grace to overcome masturbation. You can also seek further counseling from an expert.
You also need to renew your mind constantly with the word of God and through fellowship.
Above all, repent and submit your life to God through Jesus Christ, in sincerity and truth. He will make you overcome every lewd and dirty habit in your life.
Story by: Rev.(Mrs.) Anuli Ausbeth-Ajagu

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